Boundaries

Yep, it’s that time of the month again! This Saturday in the Cherished Seasons course we are going to be establishing boundaries together in our monthly group coaching call!  Autumn is here and the falling leaves have started to signal to us our need to […]

Whilst writing my morning pages this morning, I contemplated on Allah’s Name, Ad-Dar. AD DAR The Creator of Harm There are lots of ways we can be harmed And so we have to take the means to stay safe. There are many ways we can […]

I’m so astounded at the support I have received! Last night, on the 27th of Ramadan 2020, I  launched a crowdfunding campaign to raise money to provide free coaching for vulnerable and financially struggling women. Within 24 hours, I have received £600 in pledges – […]

When things get difficult, what do you do? I pray.  And then I write. In 2013 I posted a story written by Agnes Slight Turnball in 1888 called When Queen’s Ride By.   It is such a beautiful story, I wrote about it my book The […]

Somebody recently asked me what had happened to the booklist I had online, which I realised had inadvertently gotten lost – what better an opportunity to compile another one.  Here, my cherished readers, are my 99 best-loved books!  I love all of these books for […]

Coaching is always so insightful! We have so much information presented to us every day on social media, that sometimes it seems everyone else understands things just like we do.  Yet when I see a lady have an ‘a-ha’ moment during coaching, I am amazed […]

Homeschooling has brought its own challenges with housework and cooking, so delegation has been the key. But what about when family members fall short and don’t do their bit? How can we remind without blowing up?

Yesterday I purchased a printer.  It came with a special promotion: £40 off, I was told to visit the PC World website and click on ‘cashback’. So once I was home and the printer was set up, I asked my son to apply for the […]

When I was young, I used to love listening to Bob Marley singing: “Please dont you rock my boat, cause I dont want my boat to be rockin anyhow; Please dont you rock my boat, no, cause I dont want my boat to be rockin […]

Flashback: when I was 26 I started going to a ladies middle eastern keep-fit class. The lady was mysterious and in-tune with her essence. After our class was over and we were all sitting, relaxed, she started talking to us about connecting with our selves, […]

I started of my Surrendered journey realising that women can be really disrespectful to men – in the way they talk to them and in the way they talk about them.  So I started watching my language when I spoke to him and also when […]

We were lucky enough to watch some interesting animal behaviour on a recent trip to Chestnut Park an otter sanctuary in the Peak District. The story was that a female otter was being re-introduced to a cage she’d shared with her sister and father. Unfortunately […]

I was talking to a poorly friend the other day and was reminded of the poem I wrote a few years ago where the different parts of my body were talking to my Self and giving it a good telling off for the abuse that […]

When you decide to make some lemonade with the lemons you have been given, you will undoubtedly ruffle up some feathers.  You may start putting yourself first, taking steps to getting your needs met… and those around you may not like it.  Or you may […]

Dear Abused & Oppressed Sister, You do know that your husband doesn’t love you, don’t you? He wouldn’t punch you in the face, if he loved you. And now that he has beaten you up and is feeling sorry for you with your black eye […]

Dear Readers, Greetings of peace and happiness!  I am really happy to share that we have completed all the familiarization we needed to do for my son’s third son’s 11+.  MashaAllah and Alhamdolillah!  Which means that I am learning how to breathe again.  Yes, I […]

The concept of Surrender is almost like a loaded gun!  Some (misinformed) people think that to be a Surrendered Wife means to be a submissive woman who has no voice, someone who bows down to her husband at his every command, even though it may […]

Good or bad relationships do not just appear out of thin air, a good relationship rarely springs from a bad one with a single spectacular explosion, neither does a good relationship sink like the Titanic after one single scrape. Rather relationships are the result of […]

Many men, for whatever reason, spend much of their day in the house. My father did because he was self-employed and his business was based at home, my husband was at home during the day when he was a student, while he worked nights as […]

Alhamdolillah!  This year starts off with becoming more organised with blogging, and also starting to re-write my mentoring material.  In doing so, I found out that I started blogging in January 2009, just after gaining freedom from my eldest son’s 11+ preparation!  Times flies!  He’s […]

Darling, I’m sorry, I can’t. I really want to help, But in this case, I’m sorry, I can’t. It’s happened again. Last time I told you, Remember, I told you? And the time before that, I told you then also. Its the third time its […]

I recently read ‘Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in your life’ by Linda Martinez Lewi. The book was quite intense and describes narcissist so well it feels suffocating. If you have a narcissist in your life, there is a good chance you may find them […]

Reality Check: When one feels bitter and resentful of others for ‘taking it easy’ on the weekend, when one is running around haggard… check to see whether one is not burnt out. Has the weekend has been planned for, so it can run smoothly without […]

A lot of women have young children, and find it hard with sleepless nights, poorly kids, feeling unwell themselves as mums… and life seems to be a roller coaster ride. When trying to surrender, when the topic of self care comes up, a lot of […]

Mrs. Hopeless was busy cooking one morning whilst her baby was asleep and the other children were at school. She was excited because she was going to meet her friend for lunch at a cafe! As she mentally checked off all her chores as she […]

Dear Inspirity I am writing to you because my feelings for my husband have reached a crisis point and I want you to tell him he has to change – it will sound better if it comes from you (men! You have to tread around […]

The story so far: David and Agnes are the junior partners in a firm of solicitors. After years of working together they are firm friends and spend time together outside work socially, they have so much in common – a shared career, shared goals, the […]