Self Care

Doesn’t time fly! On this day, exactly one year ago, The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah was published! I can’t believe it has been a whole year! I have been spreading the message of leadership, love, justice and wisdom ever since, and I’m totally […]

Cherished Wellness is back from having taken a break! Alhamdulillah! This month, on Cherished Seasons, we are cultivating the habit of giving love to others – our loved ones and our spouses, for those of us who are married! An oil that can help us […]

Whilst writing my morning pages this morning, I contemplated on Allah’s Name, Ad-Dar. AD DAR The Creator of Harm There are lots of ways we can be harmed And so we have to take the means to stay safe. There are many ways we can […]

Do you have any love wells in your inner garden? These are little water-wells that contain all the love that is within you. Make a conscious effort to create more wells, and to ensure they are filled regularly so that you can give love back to others. Read more.

Do you wonder about how much self-care you ‘should’ be doing? Do you find that you work yourself to a depleted state and becoming burnt out? Do you wonder about how much self-care you ‘should’ be doing? ‘How much self-care should I do?’ was a […]

For Men & Women  Out with the old? Let’s face it:  our lives are not like those of our parents and we need a new template that defines a successful marriage.  My father, may Allah protect him and grant him health (say Ameen, please), had […]

For Men & Women  As April is the month of creating A Balanced Life, in this article let’s look out how we can create a balance between husband and wife and everything else that can often ‘get in the way’ of a loving, respectful, and […]

When things get difficult, what do you do? I pray.  And then I write. In 2013 I posted a story written by Agnes Slight Turnball in 1888 called When Queen’s Ride By.   It is such a beautiful story, I wrote about it my book The […]

Hold On To Good Habits It has never been a more important time to have a loving and strong marriage. During this time of difficulty, hold on to your good habits so you and your spouse can be a source of strength and peace for […]

Somebody recently asked me what had happened to the booklist I had online, which I realised had inadvertently gotten lost – what better an opportunity to compile another one.  Here, my cherished readers, are my 99 best-loved books!  I love all of these books for […]

For those of you who follow my posts, I recently shared how I had delegated the cleaning in the house so that I could fit in homeschooling amongst all my other responsibilities, and how I was having some challenges with my loved ones, to the point where I was thinking ‘should I just get a cleaner?’

Well, those challenges eventually led to me getting a cleaner!

Coaching is always so insightful! We have so much information presented to us every day on social media, that sometimes it seems everyone else understands things just like we do.  Yet when I see a lady have an ‘a-ha’ moment during coaching, I am amazed […]

When I was young, I used to love listening to Bob Marley singing: “Please dont you rock my boat, cause I dont want my boat to be rockin anyhow; Please dont you rock my boat, no, cause I dont want my boat to be rockin […]

Flashback: when I was 26 I started going to a ladies middle eastern keep-fit class. The lady was mysterious and in-tune with her essence. After our class was over and we were all sitting, relaxed, she started talking to us about connecting with our selves, […]

These holidays my hubby and I are really focusing on self-care.  As you know, we are working REALLY hard this time as we have LOTS of relaxing to do!  LOL. Alhamdolillah, through the mercy and kindness of Allah, we are doing well and are on […]

Surrender to Allah Allah is enough for me, there is no god but him, I have put my trust in him and he is the lord of the mighty throne (9:129) Allah is enough for us and the best of guardians. (3:173) Lo, in the […]

Okay, cherished readers, this is a reminder to everyone, including myself, that if you don’t look after yourself, then neither will anyone else.  Unless you are extremely fortunate to have loved ones around you who will physically STOP you from entering into the land of […]

My Time Of Grit has ended. InshaAllah, I return back to some normality…. Of waking up with the promise of no more hours of eleven plus coaching… Of knowing I can wake up early and not run out of energy half way through the day […]

By Agnes Slight Turnball, 1888. Jennie Musgrave woke at the shrill rasp of the alarm clock as she always woke—with the shuddering start and a heavy realization that the brief respite of the night’s oblivion was over. She had only time to glance through the […]

I was talking to a poorly friend the other day and was reminded of the poem I wrote a few years ago where the different parts of my body were talking to my Self and giving it a good telling off for the abuse that […]

I have noticed many women I meet have a signature style, which means it is nearly always possible to predict how they will look. I once knew a lady who always wore black trousers, a powder blue top, pink lipstick and black mascara. It suited […]

Today take out an hour of your busy life to create some space just for you.  Prepare a lovely bubble bath, light some candles, get a book to read, and if desired, play some relaxing soothing sounds in the background. You will need: 1 – […]

Dear Readers, Every day I face a dilemma which I must address. I have a dream. I want to write my book.  When will it happen?  Every day my fingers itch towards the power button of the computer.  Every day I ponder on the progress […]

Do you know what clothes suit your body shape the best?  If you wish to accentuate your bust, choose blouses which have ruffles and pleats at bust, as opposed to the stomach area.  If you wish to draw attention to your slim waist, choose blouses […]

I see many ladies who resent being a woman. They resent having to groom themselves, and having to pay attention to the finer details that men don’t have to worry about. ‘Oh man have it easy!’ they tell me. ‘They can just put anything old […]

A lot of women have young children, and find it hard with sleepless nights, poorly kids, feeling unwell themselves as mums… and life seems to be a roller coaster ride. When trying to surrender, when the topic of self care comes up, a lot of […]

It has been said women talk to develop their thoughts, whereas men think then talk. Women need to talk things out, but not every husband is willing to learn feminine communication skills and listen while we think out loud. Spending time in the company of […]

Take some time out of your hectic schedule to enjoy a self care cup of tea. A self care cup of tea is made in the same way as normal tea (except you don’t leave it to go cold before you drink it and then […]