What am I doing differently now I am implementing Fascinating Womanhood?
An example of the old me….
Me: I just saw a massive spider in the bedroom, I want you to get rid of it please.
Husband: I thought you liked spiders? I really don’t like them at all, it’s the way their legs move, can you deal with it?
Me: I can’t deal with this one, can you show it to the cat please? He’ll eat it.
Husband: I can’t see any spiders in the bedroom, I’ll just leave the cat in there, ok?
Me: Thankyou.
Now there is nothing really wrong with this interaction, it is amicable, and the end result is a well fed cat and a house free of spiders. But this is how I would plan to handle this scenario post Fascinating Womanhood.
Me: EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEK!
Husband: What is it? Do you need an ambulance? Are the kids ok? What’s wrong?
Me: A spider! The biggest spider I ever saw! In our bedroom!!!! Quick, get rid of it, I can’t sleep in the room until I know it’s gone!
Husband: I thought you liked spiders? I really don’t like them at all, it’s the way their legs move, can you deal with it?
Me: I like cute pretty spiders! That one looks like it escaped from Hogwarts. I can’t sleep until it’s gone, it might be in the bed, it could crawl over me in the night…. I can’t deal with this, I’m going to have a bath.
Husband: Ok, Ok, I’ll get the cat and I’ll check the bed. All this fuss over a little spider, I thought someone had died!
What a difference! The result is the same in terms of the cat and the spider, but this time the husband knows his wife needs his protection, she needs his presence, she can’t cope without him. He deals with the problem in a masculine thorough way, and he also knows his wife can’t deal with creepy crawlies ever again.
