Salams Cherished Readers!
This post follows from the last one and explains the term ‘Cherished Muslimah’ from the title of my upcoming book: The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah – How it takes more than just love to nourish your marriage.
So what defines is a Cherished Muslimah? You may think that she is a Muslim woman who is cherished by her husband, and I do believe that this is a good aspiration to have, but that’s not really what I’m getting at. Let’s take a moment to break down the word ‘Muslimah’.
The Oxford definition of Muslimah: (NOUN) a Muslim woman.
A Muslimah is the feminine noun of the Arabic verb ‘submit’. She is someone who submits to Allah and worships Him. She submits to Allah, knowing that she was created only to worship Him.
وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنْسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُونِ
‘And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me.’
Ad Dhariyat (51:56)
Allah is her Master, and she is His slave. A Muslimah is a woman who submits herself to her Master and is in servitude to Him. Everything she does is an act of servitude for Him.
A ‘Cherished’ Muslimah is a lady who strives to do whatever she can to please her Lord so that He cherishes her.
وَمَا يَزَالُ عَبْدِي يَتَقَرَّبُ إِلَىَّ بِالنَّوَافِلِ حَتَّى أُحِبَّهُ
‘My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him.’
Bukhari (6502)
And she also follows Her Lord’s Messenger ﷺ in all the ways she can, trying to emulate him ﷺ in all that she does, continually asking her Lord to send His blessings upon His beloved ﷺ and in doing this she is cherished by Him.
قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللَّهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّهُ
‘Say: If you love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you’
Al Baqarah (3:31)
Another beautiful dimension to being a Cherished Muslimah is that she loves the blessed family of Allah’s Messenger ﷺ. She strives to emulate them in their highly dignified, noble, wise and humble characteristics, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon them all, and in doing so, she is cherished by the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
أَحِبُّوا اللَّهَ لِمَا يَغْذُوكُمْ مِنْ نِعَمِهِ وَأَحِبُّونِي بِحُبِّ اللَّهِ وَأَحِبُّوا أَهْلَ بَيْتِي لِحُبِّي
Love Allah for what He nourishes you with of His Blessings, love me for the love of Allah and love the people of my house for my love.
Tirmidhi (3789)
In essence, being a Cherished Muslimah Its not about being cherished by your hubby, or anyone else, it’s about being cherished by Allah and His Messenger ﷺ.
And in doing so, the Cherished Muslimah is ever conscious of her Lord, due to which, He makes a way out for her from every difficulty, and provides her from sources she could never imagine. She trusts Him, and He suffices her. And everything falls into place… life, family, marriage, everything. Just the way He wants it for you!
وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًا وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُۚ
وَمَنْ يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ ۚ
‘And whosoever is conscious of Allah and keeps his duty to Him,
He will make a way out for him from every difficulty.
And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine.
And whosoever puts his trust in Allah then He will suffice him.’
At Talaq (65:2-3)
How’s that for a winning formula, my beloved readers?
In my book you will find out how you can be a Cherished Muslimah purposefully, worshipfully and prayerfully! Consequently, manifesting the four traits your marriage becomes an act of worship, connection and love.
Thanks for reading! If you found this post beneficial, then please do share it with your family and friends!
In next week’s post, I will be explaining how it takes more than just love to nourish your marriage.
With Prayers and Peace,
P.S. This all applies if you want to be a Cherished Muslim, too. 🙂
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